#16: Making Kindness Cool and Getting Shit Done with Dr. Jeremy Goldberg

We live in a world where people are so consumed by their traditional, busy lifestyles and don’t prioritize showing kindness and empathy toward one another. Our guest today is someone who has made it their philosophy and mission to make kindness cool, empathy popular, and compassion commonplace. Dr. Jeremy Goldberg, behavioral scientist, author, speaker, and mentor, joins us today to talk about his mission for kindness, empathy, and compassion. Throughout today’s episode, we dive deep into how the traditional definition of men leads to social issues, why we need to have more kindness, empathy, and compassion towards one another, and tips and tricks for getting things done and successfully achieving life goals.

Jeremy starts the discussion by sharing his thoughts on what inspires and influences him the most at the moment. We also talk about the book he’s writing, the inspiration behind it, and the main focus of the book. Getting into deeper topics, we talk about how most men don’t prioritize self-love and taking care of themselves. We dive into the social and cultural factors that contribute to this behavior and how to avoid it. Another issue that affects many men is that the traditional definition of manhood does not leave men with much room to express their emotions and vulnerable moments. This can lead to certain emotional issues among men and, in some cases, violence. We dive into why men’s tears should be normalized and how we can guide young boys to adopt a healthy, mature expression of masculinity.

Jeremy’s brand, Long Distance Love Bombs, was inspired by a fascinating experience of kindness and empathy. Jeremy talks about that moment from years ago and how it ultimately led him to start his unique movement. 

Another area we focus on today is getting things done. Many of us come up with new ideas, goals, and other things we want to achieve, but we often struggle to start and get things running. Jermy talks about why it’s hard for many of us to start something new, how we get the kickstart we need by starting small, and how to break a big process down to baby steps in order to prevent ourselves from losing interest. 

[01:28] Inspiration – We start the conversation with a discussion about some of the things in life that inspires Jeremy the most and the book he’s writing.

[05:22] Self-love for Men – For most men, loving themselves is a concept that they don’t give high enough of a priority. We talk about the obstacles that get in the way of men being able to practice self-love.

[08:06] Going Beyond Traditions – Jeremy talks about how we can guide our young boys to break free from the traditional definition of manhood and adopt a healthy, mature expression of masculinity.

[14:00] Normalize Male Tears – The traditional definition of manhood often portraits tears as a sign of weakness, and men tend to hide their vulnerable emotions due to this reason. Jeremy shares his thoughts on why tears are not a sign of weakness and why male tears should be normalized.

[20:17] Men & Violence – Jeremy talks about how young boys who haven’t had the guidance to be successful at doing the inner work to resolve their issue end up with various types of violence and what we as a society need to change to prevent it.

[29:00] Uncertainty and Mental Health – Since the global pandemic started to disrupt loves across the globe, most of us have been facing some level of uncertainty. We talk about how this may affect the mental health of people in the years to come.

[38:29] Privilege – How privilege leads to unfair treatment to some people in ways that are hard to identify and how it should be changed.

[46:46] Long Distance Love Bombs – Jeremy shares the story of how he got the inspiration to start his brand. 

[52:35] Radical Personal Responsibility – We dive into one of the concepts Jeremy teaches, what it means, and how to implement it in your life. 

[1:02:13] Just Start – Whether it is a new project, business venture, hobby, or something else, for many people, it’s hard to take the initiative, and the new ideas eventually fade away. We dive deep into why starting something new is so hard and how to overcome the obstacles that are in the way of starting something new.

[1:15:23] Starting Small – Why starting small and scaling through baby steps are important in achieving many types of goals we have in life and how it allows us to divide a big process into a few feasible and measurable steps.

[1:23:35] Creating Habits – Who we can achieve our goals more efficiently by chunking down the process and incorporating the baby steps into our daily lives as habits.

Resources:

Connect with Dr. Jeremy:

Website: longdistancelovebombs.com / dr-jeremygoldberg.com
Instagram: @longdistancelovebombs

Mentioned in the episode:

To Be a Man by Robert Masters: robertmasters.com/book/to-be-a-manFeeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns: goodreads.com/en/book/show/46674.Feeling_Good

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