On this page, I share my public speaking on personal and career development and leadership:
Outside the Box
This was hard.
Harder than my normal daily workout.
It required thought, writing and some courage. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
As an introvert, I find it challenging to stand in front of people and speak.
Instagram is a place that allows me to do that. To build that muscle. To grow. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
At @toastmasters, I get a change to exercise it on a deeper level. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
This morning was my first speech, my Ice Breaker, and I titled it “outside the boxes”. ⠀⠀ ⠀
@starttheworld talked recently about boxes. About trying to grow, or claw, his way out of them his whole life. I’m aligned. I don’t like boxes. I don’t like others labels. They are confining. They are often inaccurate. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Hope you enjoy getting to know me better and hit me up with any questions you might have. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Please, don’t mind the camera angle. I was looking into my computer monitor, as it was a Zoom Toastmasters and the angle relative to my phone was slightly off. ⠀ ⠀
For those who don’t know, you often get a “word of the day” thrown at you the day of your speech. Today’s world was Vision and I believe I managed to integrate it five times and caught myself with one filler word. Happy with session one. ⠀
Out of the darkness, comes light. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
This speech is titled “First Steps”, which is about the importance of taking those first steps when we have a goal.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
They should be the easiest steps. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
They should be simple. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
They are often hard. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
Our minds stop us. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
They tell us, it’s too hard. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
It is not too hard. We can do it. ⠀⠀ ⠀⠀
Never be afraid to take those first steps. ⠀⠀ ⠀
By taking those first steps twelve years ago, I changed my life. ⠀ ⠀
I am now complete my goals. I achieve my resolutions. This taught me how. ⠀ ⠀
1. Create your VISION ⠀
2. Have a PLAN ⠀
3. Do the WORK ⠀ ⠀
Begin with the end in mind. ⠀ ⠀⠀
The beautiful backdrop is “Speckled Sunset” by @tania_blanchard_creative
2020, what an interesting year. ⠀ ⠀
What we are seeing, feeling and living through will never be forgotten. ⠀ ⠀
It may feel like the world is stacked against us. Like everything that can go wrong is. ⠀ ⠀
How can we persevere through this adversity. How can we become stronger. ⠀ ⠀
An answer I offer is that we can practice resilience. We can focus on cultivating a resilient mindset and resilient practices. ⠀ ⠀
We can consider what resilient people tend to embody. ⠀ ⠀
1. A staunch view of reality ⠀ ⠀
• Pragmatic, down to earth ⠀
• Plan for the best, prepare for the worst ⠀ ⠀
Buddhism and Stoicism factor in significantly here.
Recognizing that we can choose our thoughts or, more specifically, we can choose what thoughts to give assent to and what thoughts to not assent to. ⠀ ⠀
Further, Stoics make a regular practice of envisioning the worst possible outcomes, which results in less shock should something actually happen. ⠀ ⠀
Instead of thinking that you will rise to the occasion if something goes wrong, picture what might go wrong and practice how you’d respond. Research shows that we don’t rise to challenges, we fall to the level of our training. ⠀ ⠀
2. A deep belief in the meaning of your life ⠀ ⠀
Yes, things can be bad. They can be going wrong, but recall one of the four contemplations, or four great reflections, of Buddhism: the rarity and preciousness of a human life. ⠀ ⠀
Consider all that must have happened in the universe, or not happened, that resulted in you being here, alive, right now. It is a gift my friend, don’t give it up. ⠀ ⠀
Read Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning or James Stockdale’s Courage Under Fire to dive deeper into meaning, psychology and Stoicism. ⠀ ⠀
These men not only survived atrocities, they thrived, by choosing their reactions. By choosing their thoughts.
How would #resilience help you in life. ⠀
Give a Sh!t: How to build and lead the Teams of YOUR DREAMS
Do you want to lead?
Do you want to build dream teams? ⠀ ⠀
It may be simpler to achieve than you think. ⠀ ⠀
Give a Sh!t, how to build and lead the Teams of your Dreams is the title for this speech. ⠀ ⠀
Truly and deeply care about each and every colleague on your team. As a colleague. As a person. ⠀ ⠀
Hire your replacement. People brighter and more capable than you and teach them to do the same. ⠀ ⠀
Invest in your colleagues – personally, professionally and financially. As Richard Branson said, train them well enough so they can leave. Treat them well enough so they don’t want to. ⠀ ⠀
Push them. Challenge them. Set high standards for them and for you. Do not accept mediocrity. It’s about each of us being the best version of ourselves we can be. ⠀ ⠀
Recognize that they may have to leave. If they’ve outgrown their role, if you don’t have any opportunities for them.
Help them find the right role elsewhere. Put their needs ahead of your own. ⠀ ⠀
Finally, the Platinum Rule. Do unto others as they would be done unto. Understand how they want to be led. Modify your leadership style to match their desired leadership. ⠀ ⠀